Q. Tell us a bit about yourself, your hobbies/interest &where you are from?
Sofia: “My name is Sofia Valham, and I’m from Dublin, Ireland. I have a deep love for fashion—I enjoy expressing myself through style, feeling confident, and occasionally exploring a bit of modeling. I’m also a very competitive person, especially when it comes to sports. Staying active is a huge part of my life; I love spending time in the gym and staying fit and healthy.”
Q. How did you get started with crossdressing?
Sofia: “I first started cross-dressing when I was younger, after my two aunties dressed me up. I was always curious about makeup and painting my nails, and their encouragement made it feel fun and natural. As I got older and entered my teenage years, I stopped dressing up and didn’t really think much about it.”
“But in the past few years, I’ve found myself drawn back to it—this time with a deeper sense of passion and connection to who I am. It’s become more than just curiosity; it’s something that makes me feel confident, authentic, and more in touch with myself.”
Q. What are the challenges you have faced as a crossdresser?
Sofia: “Being a crossdresser comes with its own set of personal and social challenges, but I’m fortunate to have support where it matters most. My wife knows and understands my situation.
She’s not only respectful but also incredibly supportive — she’s even helped me pick out clothes when we’re out shopping together. Of course, like many partners, she prefers that I don’t dress up all the time, which I completely understand and respect.”
“I also told my mother, but coming from an older generation, she struggled to understand it. Her reaction wasn’t negative, just more rooted in confusion than anything else.”
“Last year, I took a big step and went out dressed for the first time — it was to a park. Surprisingly, I wasn’t afraid of being seen by others. The fear wasn’t about society; it was more about confidence in myself. I’ve never felt scared coming home dressed after a night out, even when taking a taxi in the dark. That moment of freedom feels amazing.”
“The hardest part is simply walking out of the house dressed. That first step is still difficult. I wish society was more accepting so that people like me didn’t feel the need to hide. Everyone deserves to express who they are without fear or judgment.”
Q. What are the things that you really enjoy being a crossdresser?
Sofia: “Crossdressing gives me the confidence to truly be myself. I love the excitement of shopping for new clothes and then going out in them to meet friends—it’s an expression of who I am.”
“I’m also very active on social media, where I’ve built a strong following. My message is all about encouraging others to embrace who they are. I aim to be a positive role model and help people feel free to express themselves without fear or judgment.”
Q. How often do you dress up now and tell us about your transformation/ makeover process?
Sofia: “I dress as often as I can, mostly on weekends when I’m off work. My main event, though, is at the end of each month—on the last Friday—when I host Glam Girls, a special night for crossdressers at DV8 in Dublin.”
Q. Where do you buy your clothes and makeup from?
Sofia: “I shop for clothes from a variety of retailers including Dunnes Stores, Marks & Spencer, H&M, Penneys, Next, Zara, and Carraig Donn. I also buy online from Shein and Temu.”
“For makeup, I usually shop at Brown Thomas, but I also pick up products from the drugstore or Boots from time to time.”
Q. What type of activities do you prefer to do after getting dressed?
Sofia: “After getting dressed, my greatest passion is my role at DV8 as the host and MC of the events. I absolutely love seeing others happy, and being part of that joy—whether I’m hosting, DJing, or providing entertainment—fills me with pride. It brings people together and helps strengthen our crossdressing community in such a powerful and positive way.”
Q. Have you went out in public in your femme self? If yes can you share your experience about going out in public and being dressed feminine in front of other people?
Sofia: “Yes, I’ve gone out dressed before—never with fear, but with confidence in myself. I haven’t yet ventured out alone during the day, like sitting in a coffee shop on my own, but it’s something I’m building up to.”
“Last year, I went to a regular pub/hotel bar in Navan, Co. Meath with a group of fellow crossdressers. We were definitely aware that we were being watched, but honestly, we just enjoyed the experience for what it was. As we were leaving, a woman came up to us and was incredibly respectful and kind to both myself and the other girls.”
“We’ve also had a few nights out in Belfast, and I have to say, the women I interacted with there were amazing. They clearly knew we were crossdressers, but treated us with the utmost respect—even when sharing the same toilets. It was a really positive experience.”
“I even had a few girls ask for my Instagram, which was honestly surreal, but in a really affirming way.”
Q. Any particular story or experience you would like to share about yourself and your crossdressing journey?
“I may have already hinted at it before, but I really want to share my journey with DV8—because it’s been nothing short of incredible.”
“Not too long ago, the bar was quiet. It was struggling to draw a crowd, and the energy just wasn’t there. But something in me said, “Step up. Do something.” So I did.”
“Back in October and November of last year, I started DJing—just to help bring some life back into the place. Then, as the new year rolled in, I got even more involved. I dove into every part of it—helping with the setup, promoting events online, hosting, organizing, even writing promos for our shows. I poured my heart into it.”
“And something beautiful happened.”
“The people came.”
“Not just to drink or to pass time—but to connect. To dance. To laugh. To feel. We brought the soul back to DV8.”
“Now, we do a live quiz on stage with Five, and the crowd gets right into it. The passion is real. The energy? Electric. It’s the kind of vibe you don’t just see—you feel it in your bones.””For me, this is more than just entertainment. It’s community. It’s pride. It’s a place where people come alive.”
“And now, as we approach the three-year anniversary of the Glam Girls at DV8 on April 25th, I couldn’t be prouder. We’ve built something special. Something powerful. And this is just the beginning.”
Q. Have you come out to your friends and family as a crossdresser? If yes, how hard was it for you?
Sofia: “Coming out to my wife wasn’t too difficult. One day, while we were in a women’s clothing store, I simply told her that I wanted to wear a dress. That’s how I shared my passion with her.”
“Telling my mother was a different experience. Her reaction came more from a place of not understanding than rejection. She didn’t say “don’t do it,” but it was clear that she lacked the knowledge to fully grasp it.”
“I also told a few friends, and they were incredibly respectful. That meant a lot to me and made me feel good about opening up.”
Q. What are some of your favorite outfits/ styles?
“I love wearing dresses—my favorites are maxi, bodycon, and cocktail styles. In the warmer months, I don’t mind a shorter dress either. I also enjoy pairing body tops with jeans for a more casual look. Day to day, I lean into comfortable casual wear, but when I’m heading out—especially as a DV8 host—I like to dress more formally.”
“I’m a big fan of high heels and boots, and when it comes to jackets, I usually go for something casual like leather or even a bit of faux fur. Overall, I always dress to impress.”
Q. Lastly any tips or advice you would like to give to crossdressers who are just starting out?
“Be yourself. Be confident in who you are. Crossdressing is about expressing your true self, and there’s nothing more powerful than embracing that with pride. Take your time to try out different styles and outfits until you find what feels right for you—what makes you feel comfortable, authentic, and happy.”
“At DV8, my role is to welcome people attending for the first time. I aim to create a relaxed and friendly space where nerves can fade away. I know how important it is to feel safe and accepted, especially when you’re taking those first steps out into the world as your true self.”
“I always encourage those who’ve never been out to come along and experience it. It’s a chance to just be you, free from judgment.”
“I believe that if more crossdressers felt able to talk openly with their families, they might find understanding and even respect. And every open conversation like that could help shift society’s view—even in a small way.”
That said, I completely understand that not everyone can do this. Every person’s situation is unique, and safety and comfort come first.
“Society often fears what it doesn’t understand. But with education and more open-mindedness, things can change. One day, crossdressers won’t feel the need to hide in their bedrooms. They’ll be able to go out confidently and without fear—because crossdressing is natural. It’s a part of being true to who you are.”
Follow Sofia on Instagram: @sofia.valham
I was always curious about men who want. To be women but I got married for 37 years but my wife passed away 3 years ago and I found out I like to dress up like a woman it helps with my depression
Gorgeous 🥰❤️