Crossdressing can happen back and forth between either gender, male to female or female to male but males are the targeted gender to be shamed for wearing girl/women’s socially assigned apparel. Most people have inaccurate beliefs about crossdressing and crossdressers. This is mainly due to misunderstanding and those who continue to stay uninformed about crossdressing.
In this article, we break down 10 most common misconceptions about crossdressers.
1) Being Transgender is the same as crossdressing
One of the most common misconceptions out there. This is totally false and very wrong assumption. Transgender people have a gender identity or gender expression that differs from the sex that they were assigned at birth.
Many transgender people experience gender dysphoria, and some seek medical treatments such as hormone replacement therapy, sex reassignment surgery, or psychotherapy. Not all transgender people desire these treatments, and some cannot undergo them for financial or medical reasons.
Transgender people don’t feel comfortable with the gender they were assigned at birth and hence live their lives as their selected gender, as a man or as a woman for the entirety of their life. For transgender people, suppression of their gender identity has serious emotional and psychological consequences.
Crossdressing is simply an action or activity which is a form of gender expression. Crossdressers do not wish to permanently change their sex or live full-time as the opposite gender. A crossdresser is simply someone who enjoys crossdressing enough, to see it as part of their identity and may choose to do it for various reasons.
Crossdressing can be done in private, or for an event, and by itself crossdressing means nothing in terms of gender identity. There are many men that enjoy crossdressing, and most of them are cisgender and heterosexual. Crossdressers do not have any compelling need to transition to the opposite gender fulltime.
Therefore, being trans is not the same as being a crossdresser. So please don’t confuse between the two.
2) Crossdressers are gay
Plain and simple the answer is NO. Not all crossdressers are gay. Most people who crossdress are actually straight and in some cases bisexual too but crossdressing doesn’t make anybody gay.
It is just a misunderstanding that crossdressers are gay in the sense that they want to look as feminine as possible and attract male attention. Crossdressing is more about how one feels about oneself. For a gay sex-ual experience, crossdressing is counter productive. A gay man wants a man and not a lady. So, crossdressing is not a sexual orientation, it’s an activity like putting on lingerie, wearing dresses or heels, and feeling sexy.
Sexual orientation: Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Asexual
Activity: Crossdressing, role play
3) All Crossdressers are Kinky
Many people think crossdressing is nothing more than a sexual fetish and that is quite incorrect. Just because someone is into crossdressing doesn’t mean they are all kinky. Crossdressing is a separate activity and doesn’t necessarily factor into the world of kink. In some cases, crossdressing can be kinky. For example – forced feminization. However, there is a broad spectrum for it.
4) Crossdressing is a mental illness
People who don’t have any understanding about cross-dressing have this misconception, which is entirely false. Crossdressing is not the result of mental illness, but rather one of many personal traits that some people have genetically woven into them. This particular trait just happens to be widely misunderstood and has a social stigma attached to it.
5) Crossdressing is only for feminine body types.
Crossdressing is for all bodies. Anybody can cross-dress as another gender. Crossdressing is supposed to be fun and happy activity.
6) Crossdressers are perverts
This is also one of the most incorrect assumptions about crossdressers. Most crossdressers are just somebody who has a strong feminine side and has interests in feminine things. There are perverts who could also be crossdressers but it isn’t accurate at all, to judge an entire group of people just based on them.
7) All crossdressers want a sex change
Crossdressers do not want to be a woman full-time or have SRS ( Sex reassignment surgery), but rather crossdress to explore and express their feminine side. Some men crossdress underneath their male clothes only, as they like the feel of stockings or wearing women’s lingerie and that doesn’t make them want to become a woman through a sex change.
8) Crossdressers act like women even when not dressed
This statement is quite false as well. Most crossdressers in the world are those who crossdress in secret and when they are not crossdressing, they are doing normal things as men. For many crossdressers, you can’t even guess if they are crossdressers by just looking at them or by their actions. Because as mentioned before, crossdressing is quite different from being transgender and crossdressers don’t have the need to express their feminine side all the time.
9) Crossdressing is a choice & It can be cured
This one is a little complex. In some sense, it is a choice as someone who feels the call to dress and feel feminine can decide to put those feelings in a deep part of their mind and try to forget it exists, But the call might just get louder and they cannot push those feelings aside any longer and eventually, they will start to dress in some form or fashion.
Crossdressing is a very necessary outlet for feminine self-expression in some men. It is more than just choosing to crossdress but rather a compulsion. So, it is not as much a choice as it is a part of that person’s being. They feel it inside and know that is who they truly are.
Crossdressing is not an illness to be cured.
10) Crossdressers are not good husbands and fathers
This is also false. Crossdressing can bring complication to a family relationship but that in no way illustrates that crossdressers cannot be good husbands and fathers. Most crossdressers actually put their family first and try to suppress their crossdressing, which is tremendously difficult.
We hope this article will clear some of the biggest misconceptions about crossdressers and inform & aware people about the actual meaning of crossdressing.
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